It always reminds me of a gingerbread house.
Thursday, December 27, 2012
My Gingerbread House
It always reminds me of a gingerbread house.
O Brother, Where Art Thou?
Lately I have been pondering singleness and the numerous Christian
gals (really nice gals) that I know who are unmarried. I've wanted to write
about it on facebook but I feel that most people would probably
interpret that as my "poor me" ploy to get attention or a guy. However,
as much I am interested in having a husband, my own 'singleness' was not
the motivation for this post. I have decided to write about it on my
blog because there is little to no traffic on here.
I recently went to a birthday party at which there were a number of lovely, kind, Christian ladies who were all single. We're not talking about 16-19 year old gals. We're talking about 23-28 year old gals. Three sisters in particular caught my attention. They are all smart, beautiful, kind, productive, and seemed to be Godly ladies.
I was just baffled. Why are these really nice girls still unmarried?! It was clear to me that they were interested in finding husbands, so what on earth are the guys doing that they are not interested in pursuing these incredible girls?!
Don't get me wrong. We are all sinners and we all come with our fair share of problems. However most of these women were well trained, homeschooled, brought up in Christian homes, living under their father's protection and aren't sitting around idly waiting for Prince Charming to knock on their door. The chances of them being a better-than-average-catch are high. Where have all of the men gone?!
So I was trying to think of reasons why a fella' wouldn't pursue a nice Christian girl. Are they worried that there is too much protection from fathers? Do they have a fear of rejection? Maybe a low self esteem says they'd never be good enough for such nice girls? Is bachelorhood is better than being tied down to a wife and children?
What is the matter?!
One idea really struck me as interesting:
Have you ever heard of the "messiah syndrome" or "messiah complex"?? It's sort of like the knight in shining armour idea. Some people feel the need to find a mate who needs "saving." A guy likes to come and save the damsel in distress. Maybe it's a big ego builder or maybe it gives the "knight" or "savior" a feeling of worth or purpose. So fellas run out and find women with torn apart lives, evil parents, or ugly situations... battle against the ferocious woes and come out victorious with a glorified wife. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with this. In fact there are a lot damsels in distress, so "the more power to ya" should a guy choose to rescue such a woman.
But here's the thing. These nice Christian girls need rescuing too.
Not from evil parents, horrible lives or woes and misfortunes (at least hopefully this isn't the case).
These gals just need to be rescued from singleness, and maybe even from themselves...
1st Timothy 5:14
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1st Timothy 2:15Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
...a woman cannot be saved in childbearing, guide the house, continue in the faith, etc, if she doesn't first marry. And a woman cannot marry if there isn't a man who will leave his father and mother (or his xbox, his bachelor pad, his porn, his college education or whatever the excuse may be).
It
is really that simple. Either all of the men are no where to be found
or they are hiding. Whatever the case may be you can't really blame a
gal for still living with her parents at any age if there is no man who
is going to get out from behind his boyish excuses and get himself a
woman worth having.
There are a few things girls do that I could see possibly turning eligible guys off:
-Being too desperate/needy.
What man wants a whiny, clingy girl?
-Being too spiritual.
This seems to be a sketchy reason since it's hard to follow God too much, but I could see a guy being worried about who's going to be the spiritual leader if a woman is a 'spiritual warrior.'
-Being a career woman.
A woman who can take care of herself leaves little room to be cared for by a man. Feminism has really destroyed a lot of the need for a man to be the leader and bread-winner. Still a fella should be careful to not mistake a woman being productive until Prince Charming arrives for a 'career woman.'
There could be other things but I am not a guy and those are the only possibilities I could come up with at the moment.
I simply don't understand why there are so many nice, eligible gals. You can't blame a gal for not being a helpmeet if the guys are too busy being helpless.
Genesis 2:18And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
So while we single ladies wait, watch and wonder... don't be surprised if we also keep busy with work.
1 Corinthians 7:28 and 34-35
But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
---
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
1st Timothy 4
2nd Timothy 2:15-16 and 22
I recently went to a birthday party at which there were a number of lovely, kind, Christian ladies who were all single. We're not talking about 16-19 year old gals. We're talking about 23-28 year old gals. Three sisters in particular caught my attention. They are all smart, beautiful, kind, productive, and seemed to be Godly ladies.
I was just baffled. Why are these really nice girls still unmarried?! It was clear to me that they were interested in finding husbands, so what on earth are the guys doing that they are not interested in pursuing these incredible girls?!
Don't get me wrong. We are all sinners and we all come with our fair share of problems. However most of these women were well trained, homeschooled, brought up in Christian homes, living under their father's protection and aren't sitting around idly waiting for Prince Charming to knock on their door. The chances of them being a better-than-average-catch are high. Where have all of the men gone?!
So I was trying to think of reasons why a fella' wouldn't pursue a nice Christian girl. Are they worried that there is too much protection from fathers? Do they have a fear of rejection? Maybe a low self esteem says they'd never be good enough for such nice girls? Is bachelorhood is better than being tied down to a wife and children?
What is the matter?!
One idea really struck me as interesting:
Have you ever heard of the "messiah syndrome" or "messiah complex"?? It's sort of like the knight in shining armour idea. Some people feel the need to find a mate who needs "saving." A guy likes to come and save the damsel in distress. Maybe it's a big ego builder or maybe it gives the "knight" or "savior" a feeling of worth or purpose. So fellas run out and find women with torn apart lives, evil parents, or ugly situations... battle against the ferocious woes and come out victorious with a glorified wife. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with this. In fact there are a lot damsels in distress, so "the more power to ya" should a guy choose to rescue such a woman.
But here's the thing. These nice Christian girls need rescuing too.
Not from evil parents, horrible lives or woes and misfortunes (at least hopefully this isn't the case).
These gals just need to be rescued from singleness, and maybe even from themselves...
1st Timothy 5:14
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1st Timothy 2:15Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
...a woman cannot be saved in childbearing, guide the house, continue in the faith, etc, if she doesn't first marry. And a woman cannot marry if there isn't a man who will leave his father and mother (or his xbox, his bachelor pad, his porn, his college education or whatever the excuse may be).
There's a great quote from the movie Chariots of Fire when Harold M. Abrahams asks Sam Mussabini to coach him:
Harold M. Abrahams: [About Eric Liddel] I've never seen such drive, such devotion in a runner. He runs like a wild animal. He unnerves me.
Sam Mussabini: As well he should. He frightens the living daylights out of me. [chuckles]
Harold M. Abrahams: Yes, well, I want you to help me take him on.
Sam Mussabini: [thinks a moment] Tell me, Mr. Abrahams, are you married?
Harold M. Abrahams: No. Why?
Sam Mussabini: Well, when the right woman comes along, how would you feel if she pops the question? [quiet laugh] Ya'see, Mr. Abrahams, like the bridegroom, it's the coach should do the asking.
Harold M. Abrahams: [very serious] Mr. Mussabini...I can run fast. With your help I believe I can run even faster. I want that Olympic medal. Now I can see it there. It's waiting for me.
But I can't get it on my own.
There are a few things girls do that I could see possibly turning eligible guys off:
-Being too desperate/needy.
What man wants a whiny, clingy girl?
-Being too spiritual.
This seems to be a sketchy reason since it's hard to follow God too much, but I could see a guy being worried about who's going to be the spiritual leader if a woman is a 'spiritual warrior.'
-Being a career woman.
A woman who can take care of herself leaves little room to be cared for by a man. Feminism has really destroyed a lot of the need for a man to be the leader and bread-winner. Still a fella should be careful to not mistake a woman being productive until Prince Charming arrives for a 'career woman.'
There could be other things but I am not a guy and those are the only possibilities I could come up with at the moment.
I simply don't understand why there are so many nice, eligible gals. You can't blame a gal for not being a helpmeet if the guys are too busy being helpless.
Genesis 2:18And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
So while we single ladies wait, watch and wonder... don't be surprised if we also keep busy with work.
1 Corinthians 7:28 and 34-35
But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
---
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
1st Timothy 4
2nd Timothy 2:15-16 and 22
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Getting Rid of Good Will?
If you are a Christian celebrating Christmas, this holiday may be another stressful reminder that you might not be God's elect. ....that is, if you don't read the King James Version.
Today a lovely Christmas card came in the mail from a relative and on the back they had quoted Luke 2:14.
"Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to men on whom his favor rests."
Hmmm..... peace to men on whom his favor rests? I could not actually figure out what version this verse was but most versions pretty much said the same thing , such as:
the NASB,"Glory to God in the highest, And on earth peace among men with whom He is pleased."
the ISV, "Glory to God in the highest, and peace on earth to people who enjoy his favor!"
the WNT, "Glory be to God in the highest Heavens, And on earth peace among men who please Him!"
...and so-on.
The King James Version reads,
Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.
And that was how it was, folks. Baby Jesus was born.... there was peace on earth. There was good will toward men. This was the moment when the Messiah had come! Good will indeed, that God would manifest Himself in the flesh to save the sons of men from their sin!!!
...even Linus knew better than to use any other version than the perfect word of God preserved in the King James Version:
Luke 2:7-14
And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.
And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.
And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.
And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.
For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.
And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.
And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,
Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.
Have a very merry Christmas holiday, folks, and rest in the peace of God's gift of grace and freewill!!!
Today a lovely Christmas card came in the mail from a relative and on the back they had quoted Luke 2:14.
"Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to men on whom his favor rests."
Hmmm..... peace to men on whom his favor rests? I could not actually figure out what version this verse was but most versions pretty much said the same thing , such as:
the NASB,"Glory to God in the highest, And on earth peace among men with whom He is pleased."
the ISV, "Glory to God in the highest, and peace on earth to people who enjoy his favor!"
the WNT, "Glory be to God in the highest Heavens, And on earth peace among men who please Him!"
...and so-on.
The King James Version reads,
Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.
And that was how it was, folks. Baby Jesus was born.... there was peace on earth. There was good will toward men. This was the moment when the Messiah had come! Good will indeed, that God would manifest Himself in the flesh to save the sons of men from their sin!!!
...even Linus knew better than to use any other version than the perfect word of God preserved in the King James Version:
Luke 2:7-14
And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.
And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night.
And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.
And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.
For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.
And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.
And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,
Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.
Have a very merry Christmas holiday, folks, and rest in the peace of God's gift of grace and freewill!!!
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